Why You Never Seem to Find Love and What You Can Do About It

Are you one of those people who never seem to find love? Have you been searching and searching but having no success? If so, you are not alone. There are many beautiful souls out there who haven’t found love but rest assured, there are things you can do about it.

Elusive Love

Why is love so elusive for some people, while others attract it like a magnet? It just doesn’t seem fair! Well, fair or not, that’s the way it goes sometimes. The question is, why is love so elusive for you?

Are you actively looking, or are you simply hoping that “the one” will somehow magically appear at your doorstep?

This may sound uncomfortable, but perhaps it’s time to take a long hard look in the mirror, not to place blame, but to evaluate where you are. Ask yourself some questions. Do you tell yourself (and others) that you’ll never find love? Are negative thoughts about relationships constantly running through your head? Do you feel like you are not worthy of love? Do you put yourself down or nitpick over your imperfections?

Another thing to consider is your “love search.” Are you actively looking, or are you simply hoping that “the one” will somehow magically appear at your doorstep? Be truly honest with yourself.

What You Can Do

Once you’ve come to terms with your thoughts and feelings, it’s time to take action. Start by changing your mindset. Use the Law of Attraction! Instead of thinking about how difficult it is to find love, focus on the love you have in your life right now. True, it may not be romantic love, but appreciating the love of family, friends, and even pets creates love energy vibrations. And these vibrations will eventually lead to the attraction of romantic love. Love begets more love!

Let the Universe know that you are open to receiving romantic love. Put up that “open for business” sign and let others know you are interested in meeting and dating new people. Make yourself available by getting out there in the world. Take a class, join a group, or make an effort to socialize more. Meet the Universe halfway, and you’ll find love in no time!

Understand that love may not always be on the exact timetable as you. Remember, good things do come to those who wait. You will be rewarded!

Want to Be More Likeable? Here Are Habits You Need to Develop

Do people like you? Chances are they probably do, but you wouldn’t mind if you were even more likable. Highly likable people seem to light up a room and make everyone smile. Heck, who wouldn’t want to be like that? So what’s their secret? Well, unlike the rest of us, they have some unique habits that account for their charm and charisma.

Lose the Power Trip

Self-confidence is one thing, but some of us take it too far. Sure, you want to make a good impression when meeting new people, but putting on that stiff business-like persona can make you appear formal or even arrogant.

Likable people instinctively understand the power of touch.

Save the aggressive stance and posture for the rare corporate confrontation, not for dealing with people in general.

Instead, make yourself more approachable. Relax and adopt a more open body posture. Better yet, you make the first move. Let your guard down; take a step forward as you greet someone. Make an effort to be welcoming.

Be Touchy Feely

Likable people instinctively understand the power of touch. Humans crave social connection, and touch acts as a huge gesture. The handshake was initially developed to show strangers or would-be adversaries that you weren’t holding any weapons. And a simple touch goes even further than a typical handshake.

Gently taking someone’s hand in both of yours during a handshake adds something. Or lightly touching a person’s arm or shoulder as you speak helps create a bond. The secret is to be genuine about it and not to cross boundaries.

Learn How to Listen

If you’ve ever come in contact with a super likable person, you probably had a fantastic conversation but were hard-pressed to remember any details about him or her. Why? Because that person was listening to you instead of talking.

Likable people are active listeners. They know how to make you comfortable enough to reveal things about yourself.

Learn how to listen by asking questions, repeating phrases, and engaging in “listening” body language by nodding and leaning in.

Show Your Vulnerability

Likable people aren’t perfect—and they make sure others know that. Don’t be afraid to admit your shortcomings and mistakes. It shows your humanity and puts other people at ease. How can you not like that?